First 100 Words
We love being in control, especially the power and feeling of being better than others! Do you know what I mean? Of course you do! You’ve felt it with colleagues or your spouse. Control feels good! But it doesn’t feel good to those you control. To them, it feels like domination and disrespect.
The need to be in control starts very early in life. Authority figures usually act out of love, but in some cases, they mimic controlling behavior that they experienced as children. Children are told, “Do it because I said so” or “Do what you’re told, or else.” Instead of learning that parents control out of love, children learn that they control to meet their own needs . . .
When To Use
Insightful tips on avoiding domination and disrespect in relationships. Causes of controlling behavior. Self-awareness and selfintervention. Practicing healthier relationship behaviors and how to gain better cooperation with others.
How to Use
Client counseling sessions, leadership workshops, consulting.